` Picture this: an extremely exhausted new mom (me) desperate for a shower (it’s been too long). Enter well-rested dad (sorry honey, but true) who offers to hold newborn son so she can slip away (thanks honey). No sooner had 20 seconds elapsed since the pass off and darling baby boy starts wailing. New mom hesitates at bathroom door, should she go get him? No, let’s see how new dad can handle this. Uh-oh, the cries are reaching glass shattering pitch and then…what’s that? The cries are being drowned out by even louder sounds coming from the TV that new dad is watching. New dad is unfazed by newborn’s cries and hey, he just wants to hear the TV, so what does he do? He turns it up, of course.
New mom is dumbfounded and shoots new dad “the look”. He looks up and says “he’s fine, go take a shower”. New mom is too tired to say what she really thinks and you know, she does need a shower. Off she goes hoping newborn son can survive a few moments with an obviously inept new dad. And then…it hits her…new dad is going to be the calm one. That’s it. And her? She’ll be the over protective, over reactive new mom who jumps at the mere sound of a whimper.
And so it is. Looking back over the last few years, I realize his calmness and ability to see the big picture, it’s exactly what our little family needs. I’m definitely the schedule keeper, the bed time drill sergeant, the worry wart. If the kids want “just one more book” at bedtime, he’s the go to guy. If a game of chase and hide and seek is what you’re looking for, and of course always right before bedtime…you can count on Dad.
He doesn’t freak out when they fall down or bump their heads, and just as he did a mere 2 weeks into being a new dad…he knows when to worry and when to just weather the storm. I’m glad he continues to do all these things with our kids, they need it. I may sigh, wishing he would just follow my lead, but ultimately he provides them with what I don’t. I’m truly thankful for that. He balances us out, and for the most part, he doesn’t even know it. He’s just being Dad.
Cheers, to DADS!
I've got one of the calm rocks too. I'd be lost without him.
My husband is very similar to yours. Thank goodness our children have them.
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Laughing right now, because my husband is exactly the same.
This is exactly how it plays out in our house. Of course in my husband's case, he had two kids from a previous marriage to draw from, but still he is the calm one by far.
This is exactly how it plays out in our house. Of course in my husband's case, he had two kids from a previous marriage to draw from, but still he is the calm one by far.
Yes! Cheers to all these calm Dads! Wishing them a Happy Father's Day
Yes, I think a lot of dads are like that. It's a good balance to the moms who normally worry toomuch. I'm glad you somewhat enjoyed your shower. :o)
Yes, I think a lot of dads are like that. It's a good balance to the moms who normally worry toomuch. I'm glad you somewhat enjoyed your shower. :o)
Been there! My husband balances us out too!
I love this! Instead of being annoyed, from no on I will try to be grateful.
Perfect! It's so true.
Hey, would you like to write a guest post on my blog sometime?
Perfect! It's so true.
Hey, would you like to write a guest post on my blog sometime?
If I could have read this when my daughter was an infant I might have gotten to take a few more showers!
Great post because it's so true. Great blog.
Mary
Great post because it's so true. Great blog.
Mary
Hah. That's how it is in our house too.
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Hah. That's how it is in our house too.
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yeah this is so true of so many i think! my husband is the same way!
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yeah this is so true of so many i think! my husband is the same way!
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Thank you all for commenting…so thankful for all those calm hubbies out there. Guess there is some method to the madness
Happy Father's Day to them all!
I have a feeling my husband and I will be very similar to you and your husband when we have kids. He's the chill one and I am the one always trying to keep the schedule:) Looking forward to it.
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Aahh, so true, so true! I definitely see the same patterns in our new little family. I have to laugh at myself because even today I caught myself trying to say in a round about way… no she's not happy she's fussing because she's bored! But, in the end he's got it all worked out. How blessed we are to have wonderful husbands as fathers to our kid(s).
Aahh, so true, so true! I definitely see the same patterns in our new little family. I have to laugh at myself because even today I caught myself trying to say in a round about way… no she's not happy she's fussing because she's bored! But, in the end he's got it all worked out. How blessed we are to have wonderful husbands as fathers to our kid(s).
Amen! I thank the Lord for my calm and even-keel husband. He is the one who can handle a situation with finesse when I am ready to pull my hair out with frustration.
It's wonderful to hear you praise your husband.
Amen! I thank the Lord for my calm and even-keel husband. He is the one who can handle a situation with finesse when I am ready to pull my hair out with frustration.
It's wonderful to hear you praise your husband.
Great post. My husband and my roles are equally matched to yours… to a T!! I've always been the uptight, anal, overprotective mom and dad is calm and relaxed and unphased. Oh, and kids think he's more fun too. Hmm…
Great post. My husband and my roles are equally matched to yours… to a T!! I've always been the uptight, anal, overprotective mom and dad is calm and relaxed and unphased. Oh, and kids think he's more fun too. Hmm…
Works out wonderfully when you have one of each. We are a little of each, so makes it a little more complex 😉
Works out wonderfully when you have one of each. We are a little of each, so makes it a little more complex 😉
That's amazing! Husband is totally like that. On the weekend, I insist on bedtimes – he'll say, they'll fall asleep eventually which they do because they are exhausted from the week.
I worry about coming home to cook at 7 or 8 at night – he says, “They're not that hungry and if they are – they know how to make something!” and they do!
Gotta love the peacemaker!
That's amazing! Husband is totally like that. On the weekend, I insist on bedtimes – he'll say, they'll fall asleep eventually which they do because they are exhausted from the week.
I worry about coming home to cook at 7 or 8 at night – he says, “They're not that hungry and if they are – they know how to make something!” and they do!
Gotta love the peacemaker!
My hub is the same way. Without him, I think I would have long ago floated away in a puddle of my own anxious tears.
Here's to great dads!
My hub is the same way. Without him, I think I would have long ago floated away in a puddle of my own anxious tears.
Here's to great dads!
What a fantastic post. I saw me in the stop at the edge of the shower and the look. I am also pleased my son has that type of dad.
LisaDay
What a fantastic post. I saw me in the stop at the edge of the shower and the look. I am also pleased my son has that type of dad.
LisaDay
Great post! My hubby is the patient one for sure. I'm always on the go go go and such too. The hubs? He knows how to relax AND is better at turning things into a game to get our three year old to listen. Go Dads!
Great post! My hubby is the patient one for sure. I'm always on the go go go and such too. The hubs? He knows how to relax AND is better at turning things into a game to get our three year old to listen. Go Dads!
I'm with gen x on this one – we're more a tag team, depending upon the day. Which can totally stink for the kids when we get off our rhythm.
Way to provide a consistent front
I'm with gen x on this one – we're more a tag team, depending upon the day. Which can totally stink for the kids when we get off our rhythm.
Way to provide a consistent front
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Oh, I love this post. It sums up perfectly what almost all us new moms feel… we do it right, they do it wrong, but in reality we just do it differently, and that is so good for a little baby. Thanks for sharing this.
Oh, I love this post. It sums up perfectly what almost all us new moms feel… we do it right, they do it wrong, but in reality we just do it differently, and that is so good for a little baby. Thanks for sharing this.
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Job well done I'm definitely going to bookmark you!